I'm not going to generalize to anyone else, but for me:
- Casual sex is psychologically harmful.
- Regular sex with e.g. a spouse is healthy.
I find that it (1) Builds a close emotional bond. Conflicts don't seem so important. (2) Emotionally stabilizes me and makes stress go away.
As well as a number of additional positive effects. The older I grow, the more I agree with conservative, traditional cultures about sex: One lifetime partner is ideal. A small number or zero is okay. A large number is bad.
I'll mention: I'm not drifting conservative overall. Some places, I'm to the left of the left, some to the right of the right, some off-axis, and some at the center.
in shorter term relationships it makes me want sugar booze drugs more
sometimes it’s like
oh this is “pleasure” why not get more
i hope that in a committed relationship it would be different